I have learned to separate play and work today. There are things we do that look like work. The lines between work and play is ever so thin. This may sound ironic, but work can look like fun and play can look very serious. You know those angry football players or tennis players who yell profanities when they miss a shot? We get serious in the game because we are very passionate about it.
A counter-intuitve concept - You are playing at work if you are angry and working at play if you happy.
If you ever get angry at work, then it is not work but play and you are mixing both of them, which can cause you harm. This is a counter-intuitive concept. If you are angry at work, that means you are passionate, and thus what you are doing is not work, but play.
Work is something you have to do for a living.
Your passionate play activities have paid off for you. All the things you have learned while playing "are now making you money".
Now is the time to realise that work is no longer play. The sooner you learn to recognise that, the better you will be able to determine your true value.
For example -
A dancer or a musician starts to dance or sing and is encouraged by everyone. But soon, s/he gets getting paid for this silly thing s/he would perform before the house guest. Now the dancer/singer cannot go back to singing at house parties.
No one is going to pay you to play. People get paid for WORK, not for PLAY!!!!
Reason why we play at work - Dopamine hits!
I've always been accused of enjoying my work immensely. I play all the time. I work on projects that I am passionate about. They say if you can't find happiness elsewhere, try to find it in your work, that seems to be the case with me.
There is a deeper psychological reason why I play at work: It's because I crave short-term rewards (dopamine) at the cost of long term rewards. I don't seem to have the stamina to work for long-term rewards. (Oxytocin).
Be on your guard.
The line between work and play is becoming increasingly blurred. One moment you're on Whatsapp with a client or a boss and the next your crush is messaging you. Or, in the worst case scenario, you're doing both at the same time. In a state of brain fog, you might be flirting with your boss and talking up or down your crush as a boss or colleague.
In my early days at work. I talked to everyone I met as if I were their employer. I realised this in a very embarrassing way when I fired a waiter and realised everyone around me was ashamed of the ass I had become.
*Sorry, this is a complicated topic, but if you've read through it, I hope you've found some insight.*