Everyday someone or the else asks you for help, sometimes they are very basic things, sometimes there may be very tangible efforts required.
I had a employee when I asked him for one favor, which falls outside his purview of work, the next day I will be asked approximately 3 favors in return. This kind of defeats the very altruistic purpose of helping someone or asking to be helped. As a consequence, I dread to ask anyone for help.
“HELP” is the social currency of poor and middle class, the richer people can offer cash in return. If we were not helped by a relative/friend in our lives, you know we would be no-where. But sometimes people want to trade in more than what they can give in value. As you know there is no standard empirical formula to calculate the value of a favor done to you or you have carried one for anyone.
This causes me lot of stress!
Lets us “HELP” , let us only have only rich friends and relatives. Is it neccessary in life ’ That if you scratch my back, I will scratch your back” ? The old world works on this principle and as a consequence we have frustrated, repressed, not appreciated people.
Lets face it, if we are not in a positon to “HELP” . Lets say a resounding “NO”, and if we want to help, let it be thrashing “YES”.
If you like me, want such a place to exist, Make only rich or extremely poor relatives/freinds/aquaintances because as soon as you find someone equal, our mind goes in to insecurity complex always playing the one upmanship game, which is not amusing.